handsful

Well, technically his Gotcha day with us was on the 29th, but since there IS no 29th of February this year, the 28th will have to do :)

Our man has been with us for 3 months.  Feels like 3 years in some ways, and 3 weeks in others.  It’s all good, he’s a sweetheart – giggle box – funny faces – kinda kid.  In other words, he fits right in with the rest of us.

He’s still a little guy…holding steady at 27 pounds.  I’m not worried yet, he’s eating much better these days.  But, he’s really only gained maybe a pound or two since China.

What’s new with Dylan?

BIG BOY PANTS.  As of early this month, he’s only in diapers/pull ups at bedtime.  Accidents during the day?  NONE.  Not one.  And, he’s recently been going all by himself with only a bit of supervision.

Speaking of that, his middle name lately is INDEPENDENT.  He wants to do it all.  “I wanna do it” is a common phrase.

He’s also been in his OWN BED since mid month.  Randy encouraged (read “pushed”) me to try it and it was easy-peasy.  One of us sits on his bed until he drifts off and then we leave.  Sleeps all night, no problems.  Lainey is our light sleeper and Dylan sleeps like a rock.  So, she doesn’t normally wake him when she’s up and getting dressed.

Let’s see, what else…

Language.  Mandarin is slowly being pushed aside and replaced with English.  We knew it would happen, and it’s obviously a good thing.  A little sad at the same time – we’ll get them both in Mandarin classes when they’re older.

Please humor me as I share some favorite words/phrases.  He doesn’t pronounce these all correctly, but it’s what he’s saying!

“little bit” (as in, he’ll have a “little bit” of meat)

“full tummy” (we’ve encouraged him to eat more by praising him when he eats well and has a full tummy – so he tells us “full tummy” when he wants to eat it ALL)

“one more time” (as in he wants to jump off the potty “one more time”!)

“all done”

“that’s mine” (he says this one A LOT)

“you do it” (as in, you take a bite of that, not me!)

“match!” (as in the red on my shirt and the red truck MATCH!”

heavy = “hebby”

potty = “bolly”

dirty = “dirly”

flower = “balower”

banana = “beenana”

birdie = “birly”

Lainey = “lammy”

Daddy = “dally”

Dylan, you are our little rock star!

** Added on the next day – wouldn’t you know it?  The night after I write that he NEVER wakes up during the night, he wakes up THREE times. Not sure why, but he was very upset and Randy and I took turns lying with him until he fell back asleep.  The 3rd time, I assured him that we were in the next room and he had to sleep in “Dylan’s room”.  He cried, but not for very long and went back to sleep till late morning.  I guess we’ll see what tonight brings.

I received our “official” Chinese New Year photos in the mail and was most pleased!  We’re all looking at the camera.  We’re all smiling.  No one has a goofy look on their face.  It’s a first, I think.

Forgive the picture of a picture thing, but…

Not bad!  We’re having our family portraits taken again in April…the natural, casual clothes, outside kind.  I’m extremely excited, since MckMama is taking them!  Her blog is on the sidebar under “Love to Read – My Charming Kids”.  She’s seriously good, and had a handful of openings for her shoots while in Charlotte.  We snagged one.  Now, I’ll start to fret over what we’re wearing pretty soon.

We let the littles have their photos taken individually since…well, they get to be the privileged ones at CNY :)

Maybe not her best smile ever, but such a cutie with gorgeous Chinese eyes :)

Caught in the middle of a giggle, I think.  And, his outfit will last him for YEARS.  Seriously.

I think we all cleaned up pretty well!

On the way out the door, headed to the hospital.  She’s all smiles, but said she was a little nervous.

all gowned up.  Next, the woozy-inducing “pink medicine”

Checking out her arm tag.  I won’t post any pictures (or the video!) of her drug-induced state…suffice it to say that it made her very dizzy and VERY silly.  She said daddy had 3 eyes and mama had 2 mouths!

One hour later, and the surgery was over.  We were thrilled to hear that they were able to do the preferred procedure (sphincter pharyngoplasty) and it went off without any issues.  Yea!!  Here, she’s still quite out of it but waking up more and more.  She didn’t like me taking pictures!

So, I grabbed the camera when she was sleeping :)

Lainey had a few bites of pop-sicle and several sips of drinks.  The surgeon wasn’t too concerned that she take in very much that first day, and she had an IV.  She slept off and on most of the day.  Daddy stayed with Lainey that night, and I drove home around 9pm to stay with the other kids.  My mom was there, too, but I thought I had to take Abbey to her biology class in the morning.  Turns out,  my friend Sandi took care of that for me.  :)  So, I got up the next morning, took care of Dylan, and headed back to the hospital to see her.

And, Lainey was back!  No more grumpiness, in hardly any pain at all, and wanting to be up and about.  She was collecting quite a few stuffed animals at this point. She brought her puppy with her to the hospital, and then she got an elephant in pre-op, a teddy bear from the surgeon, and then another dog from special services.

They asked her what kinds of things she liked to play with, and they brought ALL of this.  Wow.  Later that afternoon, we visited a family on the same hall that we met the day before.  They adopted their little one from China a month ago, and were having her cleft lip repaired.  Such a doll!  And, our new friends are first-time parents, too.  :)

Around 4pm, we got the word that Lainey was being discharged!

On our way out, we had to check out the roof-top playground.  If it wasn’t wet, we would have stayed a while longer.  The view was really amazing!

This was taken yesterday, 2 days post-surgery.  She’s doing so well, only needs pain meds at night (and hardly needs them then, but I’m being cautious), and is very compliant with her liquid diet.  I’m pureeing everything and she’s eating it!

We got back for a follow-up next Friday.  No speech therapy for 6 weeks – she’ll actually be tested again at the hospital prior to beginning again to make sure the surgery was successful in action :)

We’re glad to have this surgery over with…now, we look ahead to Dylan’s.

Lainey girl with her puppy, joined by new friends elephant and teddy.

It’s going on midnight, and I’m TIRED.  Randy has the night shift at the hospital, and I drove home and will return in the morning.  So, this will be a short post about today.

Lainey is fun to watch after she takes the “pink medicine”.  It made her woozy, dizzy, extra-silly, and made her vision go loopy.  According to her, dada had 3 eyes and mama had 2 mouths.  Yes, I took video for proof.

Surgery went perfectly, no hitches, problems, or surprises.  Only took 1 hour.  Praise God.

The surgeon was able to do the procedure that she wanted to (sphincter pharyngoplasty) …meaning, Lainey had enough good muscle to work with and her carotid arteries weren’t in the way.  We’re very thrilled about this!

She’s been sleeping on and off all day, and only complaining about her throat a little bit.  No smiles yet…she’s a bit grumpy about the whole situation.  I think I would be too!  She’s taken some sips of drinks and maybe half a popsicle.  The doctor wasn’t concerned so much with how much she took in today, but we expect that she’ll begin to drink more tomorrow…especially, since that’s the test she’ll have to pass before she can go home.

Baptist hospital rocks!  Everyone has been wonderful, the food in the cafeteria was yummy (frozen yogurt!), and Lainey scored, not one, but TWO stuffed animals.  Her surgeon came by to check on her this afternoon, too.  That should be a given, but that never happened with her other surgeries in FL.

Thanks to all who prayed for her today, we are very thankful!

Our Lainey girl is going in for surgery tomorrow.  #4 in her young life, and it won’t be her last.  Ah, the joys of clefts :)

Tomorrow’s procedure will either be a sphincter pharyngoplasty or pharyngeal flap.  Both basically help to lengthen her soft palate (which, when studied a couple of months ago, is too short) by using existing tissue to make a sort of flap.  The flap will help to close off her nasal cavity for certain sounds, which will allow her to produce sounds that require a build up of air pressure (say a “b”…feel it?) AND will help decrease the nasality in her speech.

We have BIG hopes for this surgery.  Lainey is extremely speech delayed… she has only a small number of consonants which means her speech is mostly vowels.  So, she’s very hard to understand…she still signs quite a bit to help clarify what she’s saying and we still often can’t understand.  She gets frustrated (but, not as much as you’d think) and we get frustrated.  She’s 4 1/2 and her thoughts are becoming more complex.  She wants to be able to TALK to us, beyond the simple day-to-day things.  We so desire that, too.

Our prayer is that this surgery gives her the anatomy that she needs to make big progress in speech therapy.  We’re not naive, thinking she’ll come out of anesthesia with all these brand, new sounds.  We know there is much work to be done.  But, to know that nothing structural is holding her back will be such a blessing!

If you think of her tomorrow (12:30 EST), say a prayer?  Thanks :)

The weather has been really nice this weekend, making us think of spring.  I’m still kinda, sorta wishing for another snow storm but I think I’m going to be disappointed on that front.

We decided to find a park to visit on Saturday.  It was breezy, but a great day to be out.

A little unsure, but Payton makes it all okay.

After that, we couldn’t stop him.

More double-sliding!

Now, I wanna go THAT way, mama.

Ethan spent his time at the climbing wall…or just climbing anything and trying to look cool.

Lainey loved everything, especially the swirly, climby thing.

Oops.

On to the swings.  Something here looks wrong.

Happiness!

More happiness!

Five out of 6 kids on the swings (plus the dog).  Remember, Ethan was climbing stuff.

Wearing her new Lake Norman Volleyball Club hoodie and looking awfully cute.

One way to get off a swing.

Dylan loved climbing the play structures.  Sometimes we’d help put him on them, and sometimes he’d scoot around on the ground. You know how he HATES having his hands get dirty?  Every time he took a “step”, he’d have to stop and wipe the dirt/mulch off his hands.  lol…

Apparently, I was choosing to direct her with her head, rather than hold her hand.  ?

Who’s the mystery person in the middle?  Hmmmm….

We had a great time at the park yesterday.  So much so, that we went to another park after church today and had a picnic with friends.  The littles will probably ask me which park we’re going to tomorrow.

Years, that is…with our sweet Lainey girl!

Taken today, before our dinner out (which I’ll hopefully post tomorrow).  Remember what she looked like 3 years ago today?

Confused little ball of baby fat!  19 months old.  It took her a good 3 days to come out of her shell.  And, she’s never looked back.

Has she been “easy” lately.  Not really.  She loves her new little brother, it’s evident.  But, he’s also cramped her style and position in the family.  She’s working through it.

She’s had 3 surgeries in her young life.  1 in China, and 2 with us.  So far…she has another one next Wednesday.  We have high hopes that it will greatly improve her speech intelligibility.

And, she’s looking forward to the surgery.  Oddly, even when she knows there might be pain involved (we asked her what happens at her surgery and she signed “hurt”), she likes anything medical.  We think she loves the attention heaped on her.

No matter what, Lainey, you’re our baby girl and we love you to bits!  Happy Forever Family day, sweetie pie!